You might be able to pinpoint the exact reason/s for the dead bedroom. One may be undergoing a mental issue or they may be feeling unloved and so.
Once you get to the cause, it will be easier for both of you to form a solution. You can compromise and meet halfway – at a point where you’re both comfortable. You can bring up counseling or going to the doctor to fix a medical issue, for example.
Communication has a place inside the Dead Bedroom, too. Once you become more open with each other about your feelings and thoughts, you can bring that openness to the bedroom.
This way, you’ll be able to communicate about what turns you on. You might also learn new things about what your partner likes.
Learning how to be open about your sexuality will allow you to explore new things. It keeps the excitement alive, and you get to enjoy the experience more.
One thing that may be missing in your bedroom is excitement. Doing the same things over and over again can make them feel like a chore. The intimacy goes away and in the end, one or none of you may be looking forward to it.
Doing something new can be the spark you need to liven up your dead bedroom.
You can agree to try out new positions, for example – something you’ve only seen in the movies. If both of you feel more daring, you can visit a sex shop and buy something you can use in your bedroom.
When you’re feeling more comfortable, try to talk about your fantasies. Explore each other’s fantasies in turns so no one will feel left out.
Communication is the key here as you both have to agree to each other’s boundaries. Don’t try to force your fantasy upon your partner if it makes them feel uncomfortable. Don’t force yourself, too, to try something you’re uncomfortable with.
It should be an enjoyable experience for both of you. Conversely, you shouldn’t be so quick to dismiss something new only because you’re not familiar with it.
